Mother Daughter Bonding Experience

Eight years ago, I hosted a one-day conference featuring Janet Bray Attwood, co-author of the bestselling book, “The Passion Test.” My daughter, just 16 years old at the time, was helping me with the event. Being her sweet self, she asked Janet how she could serve her. Janet, in turn, asked my daughter, Ashley Hallett, to sit down so she could practice her process. My daughter got a 45-minute coaching session with Janet Bray Attwood who invited her to become a certified facilitator for Passion Test for Kids & Teens.   


If you have experienced a 16-year-old in your life, you know most often Mom is the dumbest person on the planet from their perspective. So, it occurred to me, what a great bonding experience it could be for the two of us to go through personal development training like this together. 


During the four-day certification training, we spent every day together, working on assignments and watching each other interact with our peers. There were only three teenagers in a course of 40 adults. The teenagers were so powerful that the adults were stepping up their game, getting over their fears of public speaking and sharing more deeply. If these young adults could do this work and present in front of a room full of people, we surely could too. We do a lot of appreciation and recognition of one another in these courses. At one of those moments, my daughter stood up and in front of the whole room and said, “Thanks, Mom, for getting me this message at 16, instead of waiting until I am 40 or 50, like the rest of you.” We laughed and we cried together, it was so poignant. 

By the end of this training, I knew the Passion Test was something I wanted to share with the world, because I wanted to live the philosophy, every day, of following my passions. Throughout her high school years, Ashley was a counselor to her friends and used the philosophies she learned at training. She is now 25 years old, has a master’s degree in counseling and is in private practice in the Twin Cities. She uses the Passion Test process where appropriate with her clients. 


“Going through the Passion Test at a young age taught me that prioritizing myself is healthy, being intentional in life is necessary and, most importantly, dedicating my life to something I am passionate about is perhaps the single most empowering choice I could make for my future,” shares Ashley.

She explains that being at an event almost exclusively with older adults provided her a unique perspective that she could have ended up as an adult seeking answers and learning (late) to prioritize her happiness. She thought, “Limiting the number of years in which I was actually able to live my passions is scary!” This helped create a sense of urgency for her to do it then and be better for it later.

“I think the Passion Test process is helpful for mothers and daughters to experience together because it promotes vulnerability, authenticity and empowerment. What great qualities for a mother to model, prioritizing herself for her daughter. It truly helped me learn the importance of valuing myself,” says Ashley.


Over the eight years I have been sharing this work in our community I have worked with men, women, moms and teens as well as whole families. The communication that opens up between parents and children is amazing. 

Ashley and I are excited to be presenting together as a part of the Mother <–> Daughter retreat Rochester Women magazine is hosting May 10-11, 2019 at Assisi Heights Spirituality Center in Rochester. This experience will help women bond with their daughters and change lives by opening up their minds and hearts to one another. 

By the way, there is no test. We hope to meet you there. 

LuAnn Buechler is a certified facilitator of the Passion Test and Passion Test for Business. She will be facilitating the Passion Test at SMILE Leadership Summit (For Parents & Teens), April 12-13, 2019 at Elks Club, Rochester.