What do you really want in life? That’s a hard question. We are so busy taking care of others that we lose sight of who we really are and what we truly desire. Rochester Women magazine wants to change that for you in 2017. This series will provide expertise from local professionals and give you “homework” that will guide you to DISCOVER your best self.
LET YOUR IMAGINATION RUN WILD
How do you know what you want? LuAnn Buechler, certified facilitator of the Passion Test, coaches by “helping people to reach deep inside and determine what is most important to them in their life.” She helps people identify their top five passions and then provides them with tools to stay on track.
LuAnn works with individuals and organizations to do goal setting and planning. This is great for someone who needs help getting started. The S.Y.S.T.E.M. (Saving Yourself Time, Energy & Money) LuAnn uses can be used for any challenge or obstacle that you are facing. She says her coaching “comes from the heart with love and support, to help people make the changes they want in life.”
WRITE IT ALL OUT
As you are figuring out what you want your life to look like and creating goals to get there, it’s important to keep track of your thoughts. Use an old fashioned journal, a Word or Google Doc or a notebook.
At Empowered Wellness & Fitness Studio, we have a special journal for a weight loss challenge. It has prompts for determining 12-week wellness goals, as well as space to break that big goal into four-week “chunks” and then into one-week mini-goals. Then, each day, participants log what they eat, how much they exercise, how they feel, how their feelings contribute to their eating and exercise and how they spend their time.
Without any restraint, start writing about what you want your life to look like. Write it like a novel, with you as the main character. Give yourself permission to write for five to 10 minutes every day for one to two weeks to make sure you think through it carefully and with as much detail as you can to envision your best self.
YOUR HEALTH, WEALTH, AND HAPPINESS
- FOR YOUR HEALTH: What will your health be like? What will you look like? How much will you weigh? What will your diet look like? What will your doctor say at your annual visit?
- FOR YOUR WEALTH: What will your financial situation be? How much will you be able to spend on the things that you love? How much will you have in savings? Will you be able to donate to causes that are special to your heart?
- FOR YOUR HAPPINESS: What will your outlook on life be? How will you handle everyday stress? What will make you happy? How will you be making the world a better place? What will your relationships be like? How will you express your spirituality? Will you pray or meditate?
STAY FOCUSED AND POSITIVE
Having this log is especially helpful for those times when it seems like you aren’t getting anywhere. Going back and reviewing old logs is concrete evidence that you are achieving something.
Continue writing, even as your negative voice will tell you your goals could never be possible. Think positively and write down your hopes. The next step is to break down these goals into realistic chunks. Seeing yourself take positive steps will help you keep moving ahead to reach your goals.
Stay tuned for more details about how to get the life you want. In the meantime, share your thoughts with us on the RochesterWomen magazine Facebook page. We look forward to hearing about your success.
Emily Watkins is a personal trainer and owner of Empowered Wellness & Fitness Studio.